I hate children and am struggling with the fact that I may have to have one just to keep my mum from sobbing pathetically at me every time she sees me, which is quite often (I'm an only child sadly). I don't like other peoples children, I hate babies and have never felt broody but am getting on a bit and reaching that age where it's now or never but I just don't feel it. I like laying in, I like spending our money on us and I like hating children so may have to flip a coin My least favourite sound is a newborn crying so if you have one, don't camp next to me! I don't mind playing with a 5 year old as mentally I'm that age too and they really seem to like me (like cats on people who hate them!) but I don't want a whiny kid hanging around and then me being told to keep it down as the kid is sleeping when I've come away to party
Not a fan of being in places where there are kids mainly due to parents not enforcing a few rules with them .... Like keeping the noise down and not running around to the annoyance of others. I think this is partly due to some parents not noticing as their own "normality" is very noisy and also the fact that family life nowadays is often very child centred, revolving around children instead of children fitting in. I suspect there are a few lazy parents too .... and some who are just not very good at it ... And some others a bit scared of asserting their authority.
I guess everyone is different and the agenda of peoples weekends will also be different. We took Dylan to the Dark Star tour camping weekend and I hope his attendance at the weekend did not distract from the great time everyone else had. He will also be coming to the Summer Camp weekend ... However there will also be times I go away on my own, times Katie and I go away and leave him with grandparents and times we go away as a family. I'd like to think that friends and people I know would be happy for us to be there in any of those three capacities.
Caveat - I'm not pregnant - but when we do sprog we'll mainly bring our kids with us I should imagine as otherwise I'll end up at home while Richard goes out to play in Arthur which is not an acceptable state of affairs! However - if we turn into those people that shushh our friends because the Wisebaby is trying to sleep while they are up chatting away, definately *not* singing or playing music (Brewery Tour reference) then our friends have the right to tell us to stop being daft - after all - we know what the camping with TLB is like and if we choose to bring our children along then we can't expect others to change habits of a lifetime. As marowak said - Dylan was at the Brewery Tour and it was fine... Mrs Majorhangover - we'll camp the polar opposite corner to you Birdy - your bus is useful - all lost children wind up in there
I have no issue with kids on campsites, they're kids, they're going to be noisy! I do have an issue with ignorant parents though, especially the ones who send their kids off to play football next to my van, rather than risk their own Marmitety family mobile getting hit.
i think that is a very good point ... at the moment Dylan sleeps thru from about 7.30pm to 7am and the biggest issue in terms of waking him up at night would be my own sliding door - not people being loud ...
I'm not having kids! they're like cats Liz can have them, as long as she promises to look after them and feed them
My children are not angels by any means any one who meets them lets me know within seconds that they must have been spawned from satan himself. I was/am still the parent who lets his children run around naked playing football no where near my van. There are pros and cons to everything we have a good time and when i kick them out at 5 in the morning when no one is around they always come back with little goodies for my vans restoration (odd bumper here and there, oil filler cap, wing mirrors etc) like i said pros and cons. I do get the occasional funny look as one is 21 and the other is 32.
Yep to be fair Dylan was totes awesome and so well behaved! I think if he could have grabbed a beer and got himself a camp chair he would have
I think I only really get annoyed because, like others say, its the parents. Sometimes some pubs (well gastro-pubs!) are a no-no as they let their little angels run riot and once an hour shout "don't do that darling" as they're drawing on the walls or staring un-nervingly into your face Also places like supermarkets do my head in as some parents just let their kids scream and scream and it makes me want to cry - I bet it's cos I'm an only child and have never been brought up around kids
I confess that one of my favourite sounds is the school playground during breaktime. Kids running around yelling clearly having fun is something I like to hear now and again. It makes me smile. Its only later I think to myself how that joyful enthusiasm will soon be turned into the cynicism borne of experience we all enjoy as adults. Its a shame we cant just all stay as daft as kids. Oh for those days of carefree innocence...lucky little b$%£*&@ds...
You have children because you want them not for someone else's happiness, from what you said why bother
I love my kids. Why wouldn't I they look like rob, who in my opinion is the most handsome man in the world. 3. things I have learnt. 1. Buy ear protectors for your children they then go to sleep no matter how noisy it is and don't bother putting them to bed till it's dark 2. Don't use the sliding door. 3. Have cereal and books ready to grab as soon as they wake up. Thinking back though our kids tend to lead a more relaxed routine life than schooled kids so having grown up with that flexibility probably helps.
I can't believe what I am reading, what a victorian attitude. You really think children should "fit in" ?
Our friends recently had a baby and a few months after we invited them round for a poker night, something we have always done and is known for drink and late nights so as baby wasnt mentioned we assumed they were getting a babysitter. We also have a rescue cat who doesnt like loud noise and crowds so he normally slops off upstairs to our bedroom. However said friends turned up with baby and huge travel cot they insisted goes in our room upstairs (we have a spare room but also have pet rats in there who apparently would keep baby awake) they also insisted the cat not be allowed in there however as it is 'his room' he started scrabbling at the door and the friends got annoyed as he was going to wake up baby. I have no problem in baby coming over but I feel if they had that many criteria then it would have been polite to mention it before coming over especially as they are aware of the cat. If we had known we would have moved the rats (cage is too big to move at short notice) so both baby and cat can have thier own quiet space.
Should also add that they ended up leaving early as I refused to lock the cat (who just wanted to sleep under the bed) in the bathroom. I dont mind kids just dont inflict them on me unannounced with a huge list of demands and dont ask me to lock the cat out of his own room! I will side with the cat
It's worth noting that people who haven't had kids have no idea what it's like to have them. When ours were little my childless brother invited us over for lunch - we'd never seen their flat. "Are you bringing the kids?" he asked (stupid question lol). "Of course" "Can we meet in the cafe down the road then? Your kids might spoil our flat". We don't speak. Oh how we laughed when his missus accidentally got pregnant. Apparently their flat resembles a jumble sale now. Same with other bro and his stuck-up wife. We arrived late at theirs with toddler and new-born one Saturday and apparently "ruined their whole weekend, which is special time they have together"????? They have 3 now, that'll teach 'em.
